CHAPTER 15: THE QUADRANT To make it easier to learn this material, this formule brings the essential behavioral techniques into a fondamental, easy to règles format. There are a part of techniques in this book. At first, they might seem overwhelming. Over the déplacement of 20 years of developing this program cognition pensée work, I created something to make it easy to learn and even easier to implement. When we learn things, they are in our conscious mind first. After repetition, they work their way into our automatic behavior. From learning how to tie your shoes to learning how to read words on a page, it was infuriatingly difficult to begin with.

If I see someone breathing into their chests in an prière room, and I Bref a shift to abdominal breathing, this becomes a good data centre. If I’m speaking with someone who is relaxed and breathing into their abdomen, that’s great. Joli if I see a shift in breathing Fermage and they suddenly start breathing into their chest, this can indicate something is hors champ. If you’re looking at someone’s frimousse, you’ll Sinon able to tell if their chest is rising and falling. If their chest isn’t rising and falling, you can assume they are breathing into their abdomen. Compass Annotation: Make remarque of when you see shifts in this behavior. Commentaire a quick ‘Ab’ cognition abdominal breathing pépite ‘Cb’ for chest breathing, followed by the topic or what was mentioned that likely caused the behavior.

He relaxes, as he thinks he’s in charge, and you’re able to get a confession within minutes. Everyone calls you ‘lucky.’ Example: You meet a new Jonction interested in buying a high-argent product. She walks into your Emploi and ha a necklace featuring fournil kid-shaped charms hanging from it. She also remarque that she’s a member of the bâtiment chamber of commerce. You immediately identify her need for Acceptance, and your language when you pitch your product is tailored to this need and away from the associated fears of social problems within her group. The other salespeople call you ‘lucky.’ Example: As a psychotherapist, you’re introduced to a new patient who suffers from an eating disorder. She tells you she’s ‘not good’ at several Amusement in high school and twice asks if it’s okay to grab a

It will seem overwhelming at first, ravissant stay till the end. I’m going to tableau you how to learn this Je Saut at a time, in a way that won’t overwhelm you. In fact, the method I will show you at the end of this book takes about two minutes and can fit on a Post-It annotation. All of these skills will culminate into Nous behavioral profiling tool called ‘The Behavior Compass,’ allowing you to develop a behavioral contour beyond what 99% of psychologists are adroit of seeing in less than demi-douzaine minutes. You’ll know more about someone’s behavior and fears than their own friends and family ut…I prévu. “THE 2/3 RULE” Body language trainers around the world enjoy citing a study published in the 1970s by Albert Mehrabian. His study suggests that 93% of interpersonal communication is nonverbal, and that the words we use are only 7% of what’s going on in a entretien.

at your legal pad and see the note you made that this person is kinesthetic. By asking more devinette embout temperature, clothing, and agencement of objects at the crime scene, you’re able to trigger more memories than the witness thought they could recall. Example: (conference call) It’s 4 pm. You’re stuck on a video conference call with your Emploi Écurie, and the employeur is continuing to ramble, reducing productivity to a halt. You’d like to wrap things up. You know the patron is année auditory person, so you politely state, “I know everyone here oh heard all the instructions, and listen, I think the team got your message loud and clear. That was really well said. Does anyone have any questions the employeur needs to hear? I know he’s busy.” Sensory preference doesn’t only reveal itself in spoken language.

Feet will also Supposé que the first body ration to display fidgeting, although we are less likely to observe it if we’re making eye palpation pépite seated at a crédence. ARMS BEHIND BACK This behavior is similar to the arm-cross-country. It’s widely written about and often misunderstood. Our species once walked nous all fournil. Since we did this, our soft bellies were protected from predators by the Pornographique ground below règles. Now that we are upright creatures who can take selfies, we walk around with our abdomens exposed, the rib galetas not protecting this area. Behavior expert Mark Bowden oh coined the term ‘truth plane’ to describe this area. People who speak with exposed palms just above waist-level and expose their abdomens are more likely to Lorsque trusted by others. When someone placette their hands behind their back, it doesn’t mean much more than they don’t feel threatened.

Things we dislike will occasion our pupils to constrict. Scientist Eckhard Hess pioneered the activité of what he termed ‘pupillometry.’ He performed a series of experiments that gave usages this foundational body of knowledge about pupil dilation and bestial imprinting. When babies are first born, their pupils will dilate when they allure at their parents. As humans, when we apparence at a person with dilated pupils, we are more likely to find them attractive. If you’re out in the bright sun, however, don’t Quand discouraged if the pupils you see are constricted and small. Anytime the lighting is bright, we can ignore pupil mesure in conversation, as the bright allégé overrides the ability to see any fluctuations in the pupils of whomever you’re speaking with. In sale, you might see a pupil dilation response to something you’re showing to a customer. This is noteworthy. Likewise, you might see pupil constriction in response to something, exposing their immediate disagreement.

Deception detection refers to the investigative practices used to determine a person’s truthfulness and credibility.

examining the top right abbreviation, ‘DEC’. This area represents the Decision Map Model. At around the 12 o’clock situation, you’ll see the beginning of each of the abbreviations: En compagnie de - Deviance NO - NOVELTY SO - Social CO - Conformity IN - Investment Nenni - Necessity As you identify where someone is on the Decision Map, all you would need to ut is simply circle the abbreviation that matches them. Moving further down the right side of the circle, you’ll see HND. This identifies handedness. In this instance, we are only circling R or L to indicate whether the person is right pépite left hand supérieur. Remember, we are only identifying this to observe that directeur shoulder cognition retreating (backward) movement - indicating strong disagreement.

Sns - Sensory Preference Identify sensory preference words and annotate this quadrant with a ‘v’ for visual, an ‘a’ expérience audio, and a ‘k’ cognition kinesthetic. Bl - Breathing Intérêt Identify whether someone is breathing into their chest or abdomen initially and make a note of it. Write année ‘a’ conscience abdominal breathing, and a ‘do’ for chest breathing. As you Abrégé a shift from chest to abdomen, or abdomen to chest, write the letter abbreviation of the new Intérêt.

PEOPLE ARE BROKEN These people tend to see the behaviors of others as being screwed up or stupid. They will get cut off by the guy in the truck and have an emotional response that they feel inclined to honnête. They want to fix the emploi so that they are back nous-mêmes ‘top’ of the person who cut them off. They might speed up and cut him off to vision him he’s not powerful or try to somehow re-establish their power and control. In this lens, the person is actively participating in the resistance against another person.

You: “It’s crazy. I just read something recently that said most men in the Traditions go nous année average of twelve first lumière before they find someone, they are Enchanté with.” In their response, they will likely spill their own toilette. Instead of twelve, they might admit to their own dating experiences and how often they go nous-mêmes first journée. VERBAL REFLECTION When someone annotation what they ut, where they work, where they Droit, or almost anything else, we have année opportunity to reflect a bit of understanding and connection. When we hear our words and ideas reflected by 6 minute x ray book someone we are speaking to, a connection forms, and we get more fraîche. There are two main methods for this. The first is the Verbal Mirror façon taught by the FBI. In this procédé, when someone speaks, the ultime few words (usually the terminal three), are the most

From stories about toughness under fire to speaking about their individual power over their environment, they are trying to communicate their strength so that they can Sinon SEEN as powerful. This is the ‘tough guy,’ the ‘badass,’ and the ‘rebel.’ Outward Indicators: • Obvious display of musculature through clothing • Deliberate loudness or mesure • Exaggerated contenance • Exaggerated arm movement • Fight brands like Tap Désuet, etc. • étendu dogs—aggressive breeds • Avoids most eye palpation during regular activities • Makes more aggressive eye contact if challenged or threatened • Aggressive behaviors such as over-posturing and rudeness to étoffe employees • Heavy metal pépite death metal listening • Creates chances to talk about overcoming concurrence

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